How to love a woman who scares you.

With Kate Rose.
“Does she scare you a little? Good. She
should make you fear her love, so that
when she lets you be a part of it, you
won’t take it lightly. She should remind
you of the power that beauty brings,

that storms reside in her veins, and that
she still wants you in the middle of it
all. Do not take this soul for granted, for
she is fierce, and she can take you
places that you never thought you could
go; but she is still loving in the midst of
it all, like the calm rain after a storm,
she can bring life. Learn her, and
cherish her, respect her, and love her;
for she is so much more than a pretty
face, she is a soul set on fire.” ~
Unknown
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Do you feel your pulse quicken as she
nears?
Does she make you tremble inside,
wondering how a woman like her could ever fall for a man like you?
Good—then that’s how you know you’ve
found a woman who scares you, and now
that you have, this is how to love her.
We are only scared by those aspects of our
lives that also could provide the greatest
amount of growth.
If it doesn’t scare us even a little, then it
possesses no power to change our lives, and
the only guarantee about great love is that it is meant to do just that. You have to love her as a decision in the
beginning—one that is made by not walking
away from what you don’t understand,
because you’re not meant to right away.
She isn’t an open book, even if it seems that
there isn’t anything hiding behind her wide,
soulful eyes.
She lives with a truth pulsing in her veins
which brings the blush to her lips that you so
desire, but it’s not just that you are drawn to,
but it’s the very essence around her.
This woman who scares you doesn’t do it because she is terrifyingly beautiful or
because she is all wrong for you—she scares you because so much about her just feels so
damn right.
It will be hard to not get scared off in the
beginning and reduce her amazing qualities
into nothing more than coincidences that
have seemingly blinded you from the reality that all along you believed you weren’t ever deserving of real love.
But no matter how much you question how it could be real or how it could ever work—the
only thing that matters is that it is and it will.
She scares you because she connects with you on a deeper level than anyone else you have ever known—and while it’s scary to give up the skeptical shield that has kept you safe from ever truly having your heart
broken, you have to understand that she isn’t here to teach you the lesson of heartbreak,
but instead what it feels like when you finally throw your whole heart open to giving and
receiving love.
She isn’t after promises, just the beauty of what it feels like when you truly just show up for her, being present in the moment and
letting your walls down far enough so that
she might get to see your heart and the
unbridled love that grows there.
To love a woman who scares you means that
every single day, you are going to have to
wake up and pinch yourself because she will leave you wondering what you ever did to
deserve a woman like her.
It won’t be done with weekly nail
appointments or lips stained in the latest
trending color. It won’t even be done with
perfumes from Paris or meeting you on your
lunch break for an afternoon delight.

It will simply be because she lets herself be
naked with you.

Not just her physicality, though she does let you gaze upon her in the glow of soft lights,
so that you won’t miss a single soft curve
her body has created.
But in her very soul, her eyes open, longing
for you to meet her in this place where you
both can forgive your fears long enough to
begin to dance in the love that is just
yearning to grow.
To love a woman who scares you means
admitting that there is something different
about her, but just because you realize that doesn’t mean you will ever be able to
pinpoint what that means.
Especially if you try to use words to describe
her—for she is far beyond just the syllables and adjectives that our lips create to try to
describe what it is we are feeling.
She is something more, and because of that you will have to grow into something more.
Don’t ever think for one instant that it’s a
task you aren’t up for; just because it seems
like a challenge doesn’t mean it’s not
precisely the very thing you are meant to do.
The fact that she scares you means that you truly grasp what kind of woman she is, and
therefore, there isn’t anyone more deserving of her than you.
It’s not about being unsure if you are both in the same place, or even about figuring out
logistics to see if it could become a reality,
and it’s certainly not about making any sort
of lists or rationalizations about a woman like
her.
The only thing to do with a woman that
scares you is to never give up on her.
Because to love a man she scares won’t
always be an easy task for her either, but the one thing I can guarantee is that you scare her too.
She sees something in you that she never
expected to find, and at times, she doesn’t
always know what to do with a man like
you. Just like you’re not always sure what to do with a woman like her.
That’s why the only way to love a woman
who scares you is to just do the best you
can each and every day, knowing that she
doesn’t expect you get it perfect all the time.
She only wants you to try.
Because whether it ends as a lesson or love
—there’s no doubt you will never meet
another woman like her. So why not try? Because she just may be the
greatest risk worth taking.